When Life Gives You Lemons…

on 11-15-2012 in Frankie, Inspiration

When Life Gives You Lemons…

“My philosophy when it came to pets was much like that of having children: You got what you got, and you loved them unconditionally regardless of whatever their personalities or flaws turned out to be. ”
― Gwen Cooper


Yesterday I had an appointment to have Frankie spayed and I dropped her off in the morning with a tug in my heart. I knew she wouldn’t be getting spayed that day, my intuition kicked in, and yet I tried to talk myself out of it. Then a few hours later I got the call from the vet, Frankie’s liver is inflamed…they thought she might have liver disease. My world crashed, briefly and my mind started reeling. Why? Why was my sweet little girl sick? Why am I the caretaker of yet another animal with health issues? Then it hit me…why me? Because it has to be me.

With my first dog, Murphy, there were a lot of surgeries. I remember the first time he had to have a knee repaired I was talking with some of my colleagues and one said – completely serious – “Why don’t you just put him down and get a new one?”. I was mortified. I couldn’t believe there are people out there that feel that way. I was reminded of that yesterday by my own thoughts and memories of pain, and love. I knew then that not all humans are built to take care of animals.

Later in the day I was reminded by my friend Audrey, who has also cared for ill pets, that we are so very needed. She told me “we are the reason for their existence and we were meant to save them. Our pets are always meant for us with all their special needs or challenge.”  That is the truth.

Our pets deserve to be cared for and loved as unconditionally as they love us. They deserve to be accepted as we would accept children – whether healthy or ill, behaved or naughty, interesting or dull…when you choose a pet, you are offering it a home without terms and limitations.

So yeah…I’ve picked a few lemons, maybe they picked me. One way or another I am the caretaker because I am the only one for them.

Oh, and for those wondering…Frankie is doing okay right now. She does not seem to have liver disease but we’re going to wait and see.


  1. Tali, you and Audrey are so right. All three of my cats have had serious medical conditions – including breast cancer – that most folks would have just saved their thousands of $$$ and walked away from. And when it starts to feel like ‘how do we always end up with the sick ones?’ I remind myself that they came to us BECAUSE we would and *could* take care of them. They are our children, and I take my responsibility to care for them in every way possible very seriously, as you do too.

    I’m glad to hear Frankie is doing OK! It sounds like you have a really great vet, and it warms my heart to know that your little family of animals has such a great mom.

  2. Frankie is very blessed to be yours, as was Murphy. However blessed as they are, we are triple blessed to have the opportunity to love and care for these beautiful souls.

    I’m so glad to hear that Frankie is doing ok.